BAGGAGE HOLDING

So I'm wondering where we all should go to find our own Mr. Middle-Aged Right??  The problem is, though I think most men look better as they age, they all come with some sort of baggage - as do most women.  I guess the thing is, how do you know how much baggage is too much baggage?  I mean, Kids and ex's are a given at this stage of most of our lives, but when is it too much?