Recently, I read this article in More Magazine about sex after divorce, and realized how terrified I am about ever having to do this again.
I was married for fifteen years, and though I still have a libido, I can't imagine giving it up to just anyone. Yes I am older and my body has changed, but more than that I just am truly terrified of getting intimate with someone else at this point in my life and being dumped by them.
I love to date, but it seams after two or three with the same guy they are ready for a roll in the hay. So far I haven't been. I've only been separated for a few months. Maybe I'm being to hard on myself. What do you think?
http://www.more.com/2039/11603-sex-after-divorce
1 comment:
What's the rush?
You probably have some self examination/"mourning"/"grieving" to complete, and it may end in you resolving yourself to continuing to be your same awesome self, or make some changes internally and/or externally.
That being said, don't go out and get crazy, unless that is truly what you want. Don't be self destructive, if you're going to have fun, make sure it is fun.
As for a relationship, again, no rush. When you meet someone, express that you might need some time, and realize that a relationship may not work itself out by that time.
What you forgot from before you were married, is that some relationships don't work out, and that was when you had less personal experience to weigh life by. Use your experience to its best use, but don't let it stop you from living either.
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